Identifying emotions in yourself and your partner is essential to the best communication in marriage.
But it’s unfortunate that neither men or women receive much help or training in identifying emotions. When it comes to feelings, we’re all pretty much on our own. And what happens as a result? You mistake what you’re feeling in yourself and each other.
Mistaking emotions is one of the main causes of relationship heartache. You know . . . those painful, confusing, crazy-making times when neither one of you knows what to do to stop it. Neither one of you clearly knows what you’re feeling and so you can’t let your partner know. And neither one of you can stop digging the hole of heartache you’re in and so it gets deeper and deeper until you feel like wanting to just give up.
That doesn’t have to continue. Why? Because identifying emotions is definitely a way to bring about the end of that downward spiral and the end of heartache.
Here are 3 ways to help yourself and your partner identify what’s going on emotionally:
1) If you’re not sure what your partner is feeling — ASK. Don’t clam up and don’t assume you know. That’s a sure way to create mistrust. Just ASK.
2) If you’re not sure what you’re feeling don’t be afraid to admit it. Your honesty strengthens the trust and connection in your relationship.
3) Discovering yourself and your partner through talking about feelings is all about emotion management. Otherwise your relationship can spin out of control and cause all kinds of unnecessary heartache.
Identifying emotions and sharing them with each other guarantees the end of heartache and is the best way for keeping romance alive.
And you can find romance every day if you know what you’re doing. It’s easy. Want to find out how? Take our FREE Romance I.Q. Quiz. It’s your first step in learning about identifying emotions.