Relationship recovery is hard enough without having to toe the line with relationship rules. I know it’s hard when you’re in the middle of a breakup, but to be told that conforming to relationship rules is the only way out is simply NOT true.
Beware relationship books that dictate what you should be doing. Yes it’d be nice if you could get through your recovery by just doing what somebody tells you. But you know that’s not the way it works. So . . .
Don’t read this article as though it’s a set of relationship rules. It’s not. And don’t look for relationship books to find relationship rules that exactly fit who you are. You won’t.
You are the person you should trust, even when you’re feeling lost and depressed, because you’re the only one who can lead you through your relationship recovery and back to life again.
Begin by making the commitment to face into the pain. It’s there. It’s real. And it’s not going away right away — especially if you deny or avoid it. Your relationship recovery depends on this commitment.
Relationship books filled with relationship rules will tell you just the opposite. Pay no attention.
That’s not to say you can’t get what you need in some of the relationship books you’ll find. It’s just that you can’t treat them as though they are rule books. “Just follow me and everything will be okay.”
Those who make up relationship rules — and I do mean “make up” — don’t know you. So how can what they dictate apply? Yes, you’ll connect with some of what they write. But then it’s up to you to see if you can make what you find relevant to your unique life.
Relationship books and relationship rules can be dangerous if you’re not following your own mind and heart on your way to your personal and unique relationship recovery.